December is the month of merry and cheer. Yet this is the most difficult month for those who lost loved ones. I am not suggesting to tone down just for those people, but to be aware. Your small thoughtfulness is greatly appreciated.
If you are grieving, Christmas sucks. But don’t let it wear you out. It’s okay to feel stolen. It’s okay to celebrate without guilt. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be alone. It’s okay to feel happy. It’s okay to think about the person who you love in your heart. Please make sure to accept all of your emotions. That is the way to get through this tough season.
If you want to help a grieving person, you can simply be there for them. If they want to talk, just listen without any judgement and/or suggestions in order for them to feel better. I know you want them to feel better, and we all wish to have a magic wand to wipe their sorrow with one swing. But what they need is someone who understands. After all, when they desire to heal, they will find a way. They are the ones who need to take actions, not you. It takes time and it’s okay. While nobody can walk in their shoes, you can walk in your own shoes with them with patience and love.
If you see someone who doesn’t’ look happy, it’s okay even during holiday seasons. But don’t try to fix that person because you are sorry. You both can still share peace, calm, and appreciation. It’s okay to be helpful in a quiet way. It’s okay to accept help that is offered by someone who cares about you.
Claire E. Hallinan 
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